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A blue day in a blue state

Today The Oregonian's front-page headline is "Court Annuls Gay Marriages."

The Oregon Supreme Court on Thursday voided the marriages of 3,000 same-sex couples and left the issue of civil unions to an uncertain fate in the 2005 Legislature.

The marriage licenses were, to say the least, controversial. We all knew they were fragile. Still, friends of mine were married in those few amazing, heady days, and there's absolutely no guidance in any etiquette book anywhere for what to say or do today.

"Sorry you guys got annulled"?

"It was cool while it lasted"?

"Some of us still believe in your marriage"?

"What the fuck business was it of the state's in the first place!?!"?

On a more reasoned second look, perhaps just flowers and an attractive card letting them know I'm thinking of them...

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vchrusch
Apr. 15th, 2005 08:33 pm (UTC)
I bet there's somebody in Hallmark's development department going "Hmmmm...I bet there's a market for this"

Stupid courts. Grrrr.
emeraldsedai
Apr. 15th, 2005 08:55 pm (UTC)
*sigh*

You're probably right. There's a moneymaking opportunity for everything, isn't there?
vchrusch
Apr. 15th, 2005 09:37 pm (UTC)
There seems to be. Human nature I guess.
thecaelum
Apr. 15th, 2005 09:41 pm (UTC)
I'd go with a nice card and flowers. Possibly a free pass to play paintball?

Also, I seem to have misplaced your email address. Yes, I suck. Is there any way you could send me a quick email? mizrudy (at) yahoo (dot) com.
emeraldsedai
Apr. 16th, 2005 12:54 am (UTC)
They could take the paintball stuff down to Salem and plaster the capitol with splotches of rainbow color.

I ended up with just an email. The response, basically, was "We're not too happy about it, but what can we do?" It's not like they're gonna split up or anything. Still, state? Stay the fuck out of it!!!
thecaelum
Apr. 17th, 2005 06:06 am (UTC)
I totally agree.
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emeraldsedai
Apr. 16th, 2005 12:57 am (UTC)
Yup.

I emailed my friend with a few words of (what I hoped was) support, and his reply was pretty disheartened.

On the one hand, Yay Oregon for making that step at all--it puts us ahead of a lot of places. On the other hand: rrrrrrr!!!!!
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emeraldsedai
Apr. 16th, 2005 05:39 pm (UTC)
Re: A blue day in a blue state
If I thought the fearful majority had a logical bone in their bodies, I'd be less terrified of them. You know these people believe in their hearts that homosexuality is a choice, and that a decent person would choose otherwise. Gays, basically, should not exist at all.

In the instance at hand, the decision was a judicial one, striking down as illegal the action of the Multnomah County Council (the Portland home county) in "legalizing" gay marriage in the first place. The county doesn't apparently have that right, and the action was, frankly, a bizarre and headline-grabbing move. They had a secret meeting at night, excluding the press, the public, and their one conservative member. It was as if they were trying to help the anti-gay movement.

So the court's decision was neither surprising nor particularly bigoted. The trouble is, the county stirred up so much hatred and fear with its action that the "One Man, One Woman" amendment to the Oregon constitution passed easily in the election a few months later, and now gay marriage really is well and truly illegal in Oregon.

I don't understand my fellow citizens. They scare the crap out of me.
inalasahl
Apr. 16th, 2005 06:08 pm (UTC)
I was devastated when I saw that, and even more annoyed when I had to be subjected to Lonnie Roberts's twisted smug face on the news. I hate that he's the Metro Councilor from my area, that of all of them, he's the one who supposed to be representing me.

For what it's worth, tell your friends that they're in a stranger's thoughts as well.
emeraldsedai
Apr. 17th, 2005 12:55 am (UTC)
Twisted smugness has no place in our wonderful weird town! Thanks for your thoughts.
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