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Am I just being paranoid?

After reading a lot of stuff about the new LJ Invasion of Privacy feature, I went to my LJ account settings to look around. I clicked off the guest-tracking thing, saved my settings, and went back to reading my flist.

Within a few minutes, I had three emails from Match.com in the email account to which my LJ account sends notices, the first thanking me for signing up to get lots of dates, the second saying my application was under review, and the third sadly letting me know that my application was not accepted.

As an asexual 54 year old woman, I can only laugh at the idea of Match.com, but still. WTF?

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Sep. 2nd, 2010 03:26 am (UTC)
...I thought Match.com accepted everyone? (Which, I realize, is not the point of the story, but still.)

Edited at 2010-09-02 03:27 am (UTC)
Sep. 2nd, 2010 03:31 am (UTC)
I didn't read the rejection carefully, having not submitted an application in the first place, but it seemed to be something about my application not being in English. I think spambots might have been involved.

LOL! I wonder if Match.com has a category for asexuals seeking asexuals. Also known as the "What's the point?" category.
Sep. 2nd, 2010 03:49 am (UTC)
You don't take Ambien by any chance, do you? :)
Sep. 2nd, 2010 04:11 am (UTC)
Could you mean Ambivalen?

(Sorry--hate to ask for an explanation of a joke by one of the funniest people on my flist but...I'm afraid the reference is lost on me.)
Sep. 2nd, 2010 12:16 pm (UTC)
Isn't ambien the one that makes people do things in their sleep without realizing it? (Sleep walking, sleep eating, sleep driivng... and who knows, maybe sleep-joining-match.com?) I might be thinking of the wrong sleep aid.

Ambivalen would be a great drug name.
Sep. 2nd, 2010 05:29 pm (UTC)
Oh! Hee! Sorry about that. Wow, I almost wish I took the stuff. I could blame half my life on it.
Sep. 2nd, 2010 03:35 am (UTC)
wow, that is weird! and yup, it has to be spambots.
Sep. 2nd, 2010 04:11 am (UTC)
LOL! Your icon!
Sep. 2nd, 2010 04:17 am (UTC)
hee!! random icons ftw!
Sep. 2nd, 2010 08:46 am (UTC)
/puts on the ex-ISP-geek hat

When you're seeing random "Welcome, thanks for joining!" messages for some big-name site or service that you know you didn't sign up for, it's generally going to be due to one of two basic scenarios: spambot/phishing attempts trying to persuade you to click through and enter a password or other personal information, or else simple human error on the part of some absent-minded/dyslexic/poor-typist user who mis-entered an email address similar to yours. About the only time these things are personally targetted is when some harasser deliberately tries to set up an indirect mailbomb by signing their target's email up for a squillion third-party mailing lists -- but that's a comparatively uncommon scenario, and you'd be getting more than a handful of messages from a single site if that were the case.

I'd want to see the original message with the complete Received: headers to deliver a final verdict, but having just set up a test account on Match with a disposable address, I'd be willing to bet it is almost certainly a case where someone fat-fingered your email address when trying to sign up with a similar address. When you set up a new account, Match doesn't send a confirmation message to the email account you give them before activating the account, and they don't even make you enter the address twice as a simpler safeguard against typos; it just accepts whatever address you gave them as valid and sends out a welcome message. And if you fill in the required profile textbox with, say, vaguely Latinate gibberish from a Lorem Ipsum generator, it then fires off a rejection form letter with the boilerplate about profiles needing to be in English. (I didn't get a "profile under review" message between the two, but since I didn't put in any English at all it might have been auto-rejected outright rather than going for closer review.)

Nutshell version: almost certainly nothing personal, nothing to be particularly paranoid about, the worst that's likely to happen is this person may typo your address again with a few other sites before they figure out why they never seem to get any of the mail they sign up for. And if the LJ-comment inbox isn't your primary address, even that shouldn't be more than a very minor annoyance. ;)
Sep. 2nd, 2010 08:59 am (UTC)
Ah ha ha, spoke to soon -- I now have a "profile received, under review" message as well...rather backwards of them to send that *after* I got the "profile rejected, rewrite in English plz" notice. But that matches up with the content of the three mailings you described, so at this point even without seeing the headers I am 99.9 per cent sure that it's yet another case of someone who cannot type, spell, and/or remember what their email address is messing up. Match really is not following best practices by not confirming email addresses properly -- c'mon, folks, that sort of ignorance is soooo 1998 -- but ultimately the real source of your problem is that befuddled soul somewhere wondering why Match hasn't gotten back to them yet. PEBKAC, Q.E.D. ;)
Sep. 2nd, 2010 05:34 pm (UTC)
Thanks for that. Wow--you did research and everything! It seems an unlikely typo, since the email address in question is realfirstnamereallastname at realmainISP dot net, but anything's possible on the internet.

It was the timing of it, immediately after I switched some privacy and access settings on my LJ account in the face of privacygate, that made me most suspicious.

And now I know PEBKAC. Thanks again!
Sep. 4th, 2010 06:36 am (UTC)
You'd be surprised how often that sort of thing goes on, and not just to people who have extremely common short names like Jane Doe and John Smith. That's one of the reasons so many sites make you type your email address or password twice when you're registering for something. :)
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