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I still like it here best.

Dunbar's Number says that our brains evolved to manage a maximum of about 150 social connections.

Apparently Dunbar's number isn't just a maximum, though: it may also be a kind of optimum; we feel a need for 100 to 200 social connections. Since most of us don't live in extended families, tribes or small villages anymore, we fill our Dunbar vacancies with virtual social connections.

At least a couple dozen golden social connections of mine for the last nine years have been right here on Dreamwidth and LiveJournal, and you know what? I'd like to try to keep it that way.

Getting email notifications about comments on LJ and DW is still really sweet. I like the kinds of personal conversations that can happen in comments here, that I've never found anywhere else. It's not all fandom all the time, but it's fandom-adjacent, the conversations of enthusiasts and believers and people who make stuff and care about meaning and love a good shared squee.

So, I'm challenging myself to post, read, and comment daily during June. Maybe even read and comment outside my list/circle. I might crosspost from other services. I might do the kind of abbreviated drive-by that's become the province of Twitter. I might post about knitting, or cats, or my bike, or work. Or Dylan O'Brien, what the hell.

Yeah, thirty posts in thirty days, APAD, PEDFAM--it's nothing new. But I'm just so hungry, you know? I'm tired of the fragmentation. Google+ and Facebook and Twitter do very little for my Dunbar quotient.

I still like it here best.

Crossposted from Dreamwidth, where there are comment count unavailable comments.

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silk_knickers
Jun. 1st, 2013 12:07 am (UTC)
I agree. I get different things out of my different social media, but I like best what I get out of LJ... something about the length of posts or the type of people who are on here or the shared interests that I don't really share in other places? My Facebook account is for talking with college / grad school friends, and my google+ is for talking with an extremely circumscribed group of professional colleagues. My twitter is mostly passive television/fandom/celebrity news updates. It's just LJ where I get that sort of long-form, episodic and narrative look at other people's lives.
emeraldsedai
Jun. 1st, 2013 12:25 am (UTC)
And we are all about the episodic!

I don't know whether those who've migrated away just never felt that need, or have found it in 140-character episodes, or what. (Don't get me wrong--I love Twitter.) But I do love the feeling of connection here, and on subjects that include--but that are definitely not limited to--the proverbial what I had for breakfast. Complete with recipes.
helenajust
Jun. 1st, 2013 06:21 am (UTC)
I still love LJ, too, and for the same reasons. However, I have found a similar connection with people on GoodReads, especially in the group of one particular author whom I like and who is not only easy about our discussing all sort of things other than his books but positively encourages it! Recently we've been talking about tornadoes, squirrels, coyotes and other wildlife in or near American cities, and roses. And discussing one of his books chapter by chapter, and what makes a good audiobook. (There are several separate threads in his group, so the different conversations carry on in parallel.)

I recommend GR, and there is a huge variety of different groups based on genres as well as specific authors, and a lot of other things in between. But LJ is still the first place I check although sadly fewer people post regularly. (I can't complain; my only participation is in commenting, but I do try to do that!)
emeraldsedai
Jun. 1st, 2013 06:29 am (UTC)
What's the climate like on Goodreads regarding the Amazon purchase? It does seem that our online homes inevitably go corporate sooner or later. So far DW is the only one of mine that shows no signs of selling.

I recently turned commenting back on here on LJ--for three years, I think, I'd tried to funnel all comments back to DW because I liked the idea of having them in one (more trustworthy) place.

But so many wonderful people couldn't or wouldn't comment on DW, and I found I was missing too much.

Would you consider crossposting anything from Goodreads, or linking to it here? (I'm campaigning for more posts!)
helenajust
Jun. 1st, 2013 06:57 am (UTC)
People are wary of the Amazon purchase, and hoping that it won't change Goodreads too much.

I did try to use Dreamwidth but I was happy with LJ so ended up staying here. What was untrustworthy about LJ? I hadn't realised it had "gone corporate" - was that why people started moving away?

I wouldn't know how to cross-post from Goodreads. I do know of people who put their book reviews both on Goodreads and on here, but I never write reviews which are sufficiently polished (I jot down thoughts for myself, and keep my account private). I rarely write reviews at all now - I started using GR as a book catalogue and then discovered the social side. Now I spend the majority of my time there taking part in conversations which could not form the basis of a post here. In the process I do see a lot of book recommendations (and make some).
emeraldsedai
Jun. 1st, 2013 10:23 pm (UTC)
Well, when I say "crosspost" I really mean copy and paste. :D I haven't found any spiffy way of making it happen.

At your prompting, I've started a Goodreads account. Nearly all of my serious "reading" is listening--I'm about 90% audiobooks. I didn't immediately spot audio editions in the listing, but I imagine they're there somewhere.

Part of me is saying OMG I don't need another social network! And part of me is saying, You know, it'd be great to have a record of all the stuff I read. So we'll see. Thanks for the prompting!
helenajust
Jun. 2nd, 2013 07:31 am (UTC)
I hope you find some groups you like on Goodreads. There are some audiobook groups there. I think if you click on "other editions", usually top right, you should find the audio editions eventually.

I love audiobooks too! I listen while I'm driving, mostly, but also while I knit. But I have to admit that I don't read any serious fiction these days. I reserve my mental reading energy for history books, but I don't read them often.
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